To Win Or To Lose

What does winning means to you? This word can be used in many occasions. To win a competition, a fight, a war. All of us know that to win is to beat the guy and then you are declared the winner. Yet, sometimes when we lose, we win as well. And when we win, we lose as well. Let me explain with a little story. Once there were 2 brothers who practised martial arts under the same master. The younger brother was a ruthless person who would go all out to win a fight, while the older brother is merciful. Because of that, the younger one won many competitions while the older one did not. In that way, people thought the younger brother was stronger. However, the younger brother ruthlessness injured many people and the elder one was merciful, and WON many friends. One day, the 2 brothers fought in a competition. Both were equally skilled. Then there was this point when the elder brother could win the match by punching him and injure him, but he showed mercy. The younger one took the opportunity and defeated his brother. Then the younger brother realised that having being showed mercy from injury is just so wonderful and stopped being ruthless. So you get the story? Hope you do. The ultimate winner is the elder brother I think. You don't have to win a match to win something. Lets talk about a war, real fights between friends. So what if we win these? Lives will be LOST, friends will be LOST even if we should win. Understand? Hope you guys do. So I always believe that we should never get into fights or be hardheaded. Come on, just forgive. Whats the point of taking revenge and all? Will it help to solve the problem? It won't. It will only create another problem. Thats why I firmly believe that we should all have a forgiving heart. Some people think they might lose face because they are seen to have lost in a quarrel. But no, no one wins in a quarrel. Both party loses a friend. No one wins anything. So don't let your pride get all over you. Learn to be forgiving for we have been forgiven many a times as well.